A boundary describes what you will participate in and what you will do when a limit is crossed. It does not require the other person to agree that your need is reasonable.
Choose the kind of access you can offer
You can limit meetings, messages, topics, locations and who is present. Safety may require no contact.
- I am not available for an in-person meeting. Please communicate in writing.
- I will attend with a support person.
- I am not discussing reconciliation at this time.
Keep explanations brief
A long defense can become an invitation to negotiate. Clear language is enough. Repeat the limit rather than arguing about whether you are allowed to have it.
- That does not work for me.
- I am taking time before I respond.
- If the conversation becomes pressuring, I will end it.
Plan what you will do
A boundary becomes practical when you know your response: leave, stop replying, bring another person or contact qualified help.
- What behavior ends the conversation?
- Who can help me hold this limit?
- What records should I keep safely?
This guide supports reflection. It is not medical, mental-health, emergency or legal advice.